Woman Disinvites Mother to Thanksgiving Days Before Holiday Over 'Offensive' Comment
On Reddit, a woman details an argument she had with her mom about sensitivities surrounding her children
On Reddit, a woman details an argument she had with her mom about sensitivities surrounding her children:max_bytes(150000):strip_icc():format(jpeg)/GettyImages-562611997-56a22ab13df78cf77272c621.jpg "Woman waiting for phone call")
A woman is looking for support from the Reddit community after she and her mother got into a fight so big it prompted her to cancel their Thanksgiving plans.
In an anonymous post, the woman writes, “I have a teenage granddaughter (via stepdaughter). My mom texted me saying that she thinks my brother's son has a crush on my granddaughter.”
“I am a very involved stepmother, have been for 20 years and raised my stepdaughters in my home. I don't ever call them stepdaughters, and am only using the term for the sake of the story,” she adds.
Replying to her mother, the woman explained that the nephew and stepdaughter are related, to which the mother responded, “They’re not really related.”
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Ultimately, the woman found the comment hurtful and chose to remove her mother from this year’s Thanksgiving table.
“I responded that it was offensive to say my granddaughter is not really related and that I do not want my mother to come for the holiday,” she writes on Reddit.
The woman continues with some context about her mother.
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“She has a long history of textbook narcissistic parenting behavior, and this happened right after a major family event,” she explains. “She usually creates issues around positive family events.”
“She has made little comments about my daughters not being ‘real’ over the years. She is not close to my nephew: her comment was not based on something she heard, it was based on watching them interact at the event," she adds.
The woman asks if she is wrong in her decision to “cut her out of spending the holiday with my husband and my kids based on the remark.”
Redditors on the post are divided, with some saying the poster may have misunderstood her mother, and others agreeing with the woman.
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“She wasn't suggesting your [stepdaughter] isn't family. She was simply clarifying that the teenagers aren’t blood relatives, so their relationship wouldn’t be incestuous,” writes one user. “It sounds like this is a sensitive topic for you and you misinterpreted her comment in the most negative way.”
“Your mother is correct. Of COURSE your step daughters and step grandchildren are your "real" family, but you are not biologically related. And THAT is what your mother was addressing,” adds another.
A third agrees with the poster, saying, “it seems like your mom is trying to stir up drama for no good reason. Also you are the host if you don't feel comfortable with a guest's behavior it is your right to uninvite them.”
