Man Disinvites Sister from Nuptials Because She Refuses to Hand Over Late Mother’s Wedding Ring
"Mom would want me to hold on to [the ring] for when my daughter gets married," the sister wrote on Reddit
"Mom would want me to hold on to [the ring] for when my daughter gets married," the sister wrote on Reddit Grace Cary/Getty A woman holding a ring (stock image):max_bytes(150000):strip_icc():format(jpeg)/late-mother-wedding-ring-012725-2-56682dc3844d41f4aa587cdcc80456bc.jpg "Close-up of unrecognizable black woman holding ring")
A woman was disinvited from her brother's upcoming wedding following a dispute over their late mother's ring.
In a post on Reddit's "Am I the A------" forum, the woman explained that when their mother was terminally ill with cancer, she sat her two children down and gave each of them a piece of her jewelry "that meant something to her."
The woman received her mother's wedding ring, which previously belonged to her grandmother, and intended to one day gift it to her daughter. Her brother, meanwhile, was given a necklace to pass down to his own daughter.
Now, years later, the brother has asked his sister if they can trade jewelry pieces as he wants to give their mother's wedding ring to his soon-to-be wife.
"I said no. Mom would want me to hold on to it for when my daughter gets married," the woman recalled. iStockphoto/Getty A woman and man arguing (stock image)
Her refusal sparked a disagreement and after some "back and forth," her brother "made the choice to stop all communication." He is getting married soon and no longer inviting his sister to the wedding.
"When I tried to call him, his fiancée told me that it would be best to not call anymore and that my brother was really hurt," the woman concluded her post, asking if she is "the a------" for not handing over the ring to her sibling.
In the comment section, the general consensus was that the brother was being "selfish and petty" and completely disregarding their late mother's wishes.
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"Your mother wanted your daughter to have that ring. You can't give away a gift that is for your daughter — it isn't yours, it belongs to your daughter," one person wrote. "Your brother is throwing a tantrum because he wants the ring and would probably also ask for the necklace back at a later date because 'it was originally meant to be mine.' " Prostock-Studio/Getty A woman holding a ring (stock image)
Another chimed in: "Your mom entrusted you with the ring to pass down to your daughter, and it's reasonable for you to want to honor her wishes. Your brother's response is unfortunate, but you didn't do anything wrong."
Many Redditors also pointed out that the siblings' mother likely had another very intentional reason for giving her daughter the ring — to keep it in the family.
"Your brother's fiancée can divorce him and take the ring, taking it out of the family," one commenter noted, while another agreed, "This is exactly why your mom gave the ring to you. She didn't want the ring to be given to a future fiancée that may not work out in the end."
A few other commenters questioned if the brother might want his mother's ring to avoid having to buy one for his partner. "I think your brother just didn’t want to spend money on a ring. He sounds cheap," a Redditor wrote.
As for the brother's decision to cut off communication with his sister, another person said: "Your brother chose jealousy over an object instead of a relationship with you. So that tells you everything you need to know about his priorities, and how very important protecting your family and your belongings from him is."
