Ethan Slater's Ex-Wife Pens Essay About Their Divorce Amid His Relationship With Ariana Grande

Ethan Slater's ex-wife Lilly Jay has reflected on their split in an essay, revealing that she never thought she would get divorced.

Slater and Jay's marriage crashed earlier this year, with the Broadway actor moving on to date his "Wicked" costar Ariana Grande, who also separated from her ex-husband, Dalton Gomez.

Grande and Slater's relationship was widely deemed controversial due to its timing and the public backlash they received afterward.

Ethan Slater's Ex-Wife Says She Misses Her 'Life Of Invisibility'

Lilly Jay, a clinical psychologist in perinatal mental health and child development, penned an essay for The Cut published on December 18. In the write-up, she narrated the difficulties she faced following the fallout of her and Slater's marriage and her life as a mom to their two-year-old son.

Jay began by stating that no one gets married thinking they would get divorced or boards a plane expecting it to crash. She continued, "But I really never thought I would get divorced. Especially not just after giving birth to my first child and especially not in the shadow of my husband’s new relationship with a celebrity."

The mother of one expressed that she was in a season of shock and mourning over a year after her marriage's fallout became public. She wrote, "I deeply miss the life of invisibility I created for myself as a psychologist specializing in women’s mental health."

Lilly Jay Believes Better Days Are Ahead After Split From Ethan Slater

Slater's ex-wife shared more details about how caring for her son was helping her deal with the difficulties.

She explained, "Motherhood, I have learned, fills your time but not your mind. In the countless hours I spend rocking my son to sleep, pushing his stroller, marveling at his sweaty little hands grasping a crayon, I work diligently on my private project of accepting the sudden public downfall of my marriage."

Jay continued, "This, I tell myself, is nothing to be ashamed of and nothing to hide. Slowly but surely, I have come to believe that in the absence of the life I planned with my high-school sweetheart, a lifetime of sweetness is waiting for me and my child."

Ethan Slater And Lilly Jay's Co-Parenting Dynamic

Jay also wrote about how she and Slater were co-parenting their son, noting that their parenthood remained the same though their partnership had changed. She wrote, "Both of us fiercely love our son 100 percent of the time, regardless of how our parenting time is divided."

However, Jay admitted that she was still struggling with the aftermath of her and Slater's public divorce. She noted, "Days with my son are sunny. Days when I can't escape the promotion of a movie associated with the darkest days of my life are darker."

The therapist also revealed that her public divorce impacted her career, writing, "I can't say for sure how much my career has been impacted by what's out there online. But there have been hints along the way, like the job offer that dissolved without explanation after yet another tabloid news cycle or the patient who's scheduled for a first appointment but seemingly vanishes."

Ethan Slater And Lilly Jay's Divorce

Slater filed for divorce from Jay in July 2023, a month before their son's one-year birthday. The news of the divorce filing came after reports that Ariana Grande had ended her relationship with her ex-husband, Dalton Gomez.

Not long after filing for divorce, Slater and Grande started dating, with reports of their romance earning them severe backlash on social media.

There were speculations that Slater cheated on Jay with Grande, though he and the singer have since debunked that narrative.

Jay and Slater finalized their divorce settlement on September 12, but details of the document remained undisclosed.

Slater Speaks On His Relationship With Grande

Slater broke his silence on his controversial relationship with Grande during an interview with GQ in October. He acknowledged that it was difficult to have things about his private life become a topic of public discussion.

The actor also said, "It's really hard to see people who don't know anything about what's happening commenting on it and speculating, and then getting things wrong about the people you love."

However, Slater gushed about Grande, saying it was a "beautiful thing" to fall in love with her on set, before adding that he was proud of her and her work on "Wicked."

Grande also spoke about the speculations about her and Slater's relationship in a chat with Vanity Fair in September, expressing her disappointment that many people believed the worst version of events.